I downloaded the driver for the Dlink whilst installing i kept getting a message timed out, So i extended the time out still get the same message

Resetting your router I think is your only option don, since we know that the wireless on the laptop is working since it is picking up your other networks. We know the router itself is working since you can pick up a wireless connection from another laptop. This rules out hardware and drivers.

The only possibility I can think of, is that your new installation of XP has confused matters. Since your router retains a DHCP address (leases) for your laptop for some time, so that each time you connect, you end up with that same address. Now you are trying to connect with the same laptop (same MAC address) and but a new OS (different workstation details). Your router may be rejecting your laptop on this basis. Resetting your router will clear these leases, and hopefully give your laptop chance to connect.

Hi reset the router, this pc is now finding the D LInk but wont connect message say "Windows is unable to connect to selected network. The network may no longer be in range, Please refresh and try again"

I have refreshed but still wont connect ????
At least im getting further than i was before lol

I cant believe it. Ive done it not sure how but ive done it. YIPPEEEE

Nice work done. Will mark this one as resolved.